From mowing the lawn to cleaning the toilet, when it comes to moving in together, making compromises with your partner is inevitable. They say that you don’t truly know your other half until you live together, but what are the pet peeves that are really infuriating couples across the nation?
A recent study1 by bed and sleep specialist, Time 4 Sleep, reveals the things that annoy Brits the most about living with their partner.
The researched discovered that, when it comes to annoying bedroom habits, snoring tops the list, with over 28 million people (44%) in the UK admitting that their other half’s noisy sleeping habit irritates them.
Other bedroom habits testing the nation’s relationships include; hogging the bed sheets (23%), leaving the bed unmade (16%), eating in bed (15%) and having different sleeping patterns (15%). Recent research by Furniture Choice2 also revealed other bed sharing habits that are annoying the nation, includes; fidgeting too much (30%), taking up too much space in bed (23%) and stealing or encroaching on their pillow (15%).
It’s not only our bedroom habits that are winding up our other halves either. If you’re looking to dodge an argument, it might be worth avoiding the following top five biggest relationship pet peeves:
When it comes to settling arguments, it seems that allowing our other halves to watch what they want on TV is one of the biggest relationship compromises we can make, with 27% of the nation agreeing that they find it hard to let their partner have their own way with the remote.
Other relationship compromises include agreeing to cook and clean more (27%), having to change our eating habits to suit our partner (19%) and spending more money (17%).
Robyn Haldane, 25 year old Business Development Executive from Leeds, reveals her biggest pet peeves when living with her boyfriend. She says: “I love my boyfriend very much but sometimes it’s like living with a man child along with our actual 5 year old daughter! He just loves winding me up at every opportunity.”
“Some of his more annoying habits include; taking every pair of shoes off in the living room and leaving them there as a collection, eating everything, if I make lunch for work the next day he will eat it, turning off the TV when I’m halfway through watching something, never emptying the bin and tripping me up all the time when we go shopping! He is good at doing the washing and hanging it out to dry though.”
Emma McClain, Sales Manager from Leeds, says: “My boyfriend never puts empty things in the bin and it really annoys me! The middle of toilet rolls, bottles of pop, empty shower gel bottles, you name it. I’m tired of telling him to throw things away, he just seems to assume that I’ll do it which is even more irritating.”
Sammy Altman, 26 year old Account Executive from Leeds said: “My girlfriend leaves balls of wet hair stuck to every part of the shower and it’s so annoying! It’s disgusting and gets stuck to me while I’m showering too. I started to notice it after about three weeks of living with her and even though she knows it annoys me, she still can’t seem to grasp the concept of removing the hair from the walls of the shower!”
Grace Parkins, 25-year-old Account Executive from Leeds said: “My darling Tom is very efficient at cleaning up however, after every single thing he does around the house he says to me, I’ve done x y z… for you! No hunny, it’s not for me it’s for us, you live here too! He’s also really good at putting things in the dishwasher but it doesn’t seem to register in his brain that he actually needs to turn it on to clean the plates.”
“It annoys me because I don’t tell Tom every time I do something in the house and the fact that he thinks he’s cleaning up ‘for me’ and not him. It’s annoyed me from day one of living with him. He definitely knows that it annoys me too because I tell him every day! Although he frustrates me at times, I wouldn’t change him for the world!”
Thierry Ngutegure, 25 year old Data Journalist from Leeds, said: “My girlfriend opens food, but never finishes it. She’s the worst when it comes to salmon, which baffles me as it comes in such small portions so how on earth can she not finish it?!
“I hate food waste; the really annoying thing is when she doesn’t finish one packet and buys another, and then both have to be thrown out a few weeks later. COME ON!”
“I’ve tried to bring it up in conversation or make a joke out of it, but it all falls on deaf ears or me nagging.”
25-year-old engineer, Callum Dale, from Leeds, commented on his experience of living with his girlfriend, Rachel: “Living with Rachel is the best, she does more than her fair share of cleaning and always keeps the fridge full, I know I’m a pain to live with at times.”
“However she definitely gets revenge when it comes to bedtime as she never lets me sleep (no dirty thoughts, please). She walks, talks and shouts in her sleep almost every night and when she isn’t doing that she only finds laying diagonally in the middle of the bed comfortable!”
Age was found to play an influential role when it comes to our partners’ most annoying bedroom habits too. Over a third (35%) of 18 to 24 year olds felt that eating in bed was their partner’s most annoying habit, while all other age groups, ranging from 25 to 34 to 65 and over, agreed that snoring was their biggest gripe.
Ending our bedtime eating habit may not be such a bad thing either, as previous research by Time 4 Sleep3 also found that it can have disturbing effects on our health, even though over half of Brits (57%) still admit to snacking in bed2. Medical nutritionist, Dr Sarah Brewer, outlined the following reasons to stop snacking in bed:
In terms of gender differences, the study showed that women are most likely to feel annoyed with their partner for not doing their share of the chores (35%) whereas men get most annoyed with their partner for not doing the washing up (26%).
Women also felt that the biggest compromise they had to make when they moved in with their partner was not being able to watch what they wanted on TV (30%) in comparison to men, who felt that their biggest compromise was that they had to start cleaning more in the house (28%).
Jonathan Warren, director at bed and sleep specialist, Time 4 Sleep, said: “Our research findings reveal some surprising trends about what annoys us the most about our partners! It was particularly interesting to see the kind of issues that annoy us about our partners in the bedroom.
“Almost half of Brits said that snoring was their partner’s most annoying bedroom habit so it’s clear to see that we’re being affected by our other half’s sleep behaviours. If you find yourself feeling easily disrupted during the night, it may be a good idea to change your bedtime routine and make sure that you unwind and feel properly relaxed before you go to bed.”
For more advice and top tips on how to get a better night’s sleep, visit Time 4 Sleep’s Relaxation Zone
1 Independent survey of 1,000 respondents by Time 4 Sleep in May 2017
2 Survey of 1,009 respondents by The Leadership Factor in April 2017.
3 Independent survey of 1,000 respondents by Time 4 Sleep in April 2017.
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